Where Is The Love?

When you think of your relationship, you want to be reminded of all the little ways that you and your partner show that you care about each other, but what do you do when you feel like your efforts to be appreciated for your love aren’t being reciprocated? For a couple that has outside obligations and responsibilities, it can be easy to fall into a rhythm of assuming that the love is still as strong as it once was, but showing appreciation for your partner should never be put on the back burner. When you take the time to truly appreciate your partner for who they are regardless of the outside stress, you build the trust and love in your relationship to create an even deeper bond. 


Appreciation Is For Everyone

No one should feel like they are crazy or asking for too much when they voice their need for validation and appreciation. Wanting to be recognized for the effort that you put into a relationship is a natural part of being with someone romantically. Whether you want to spend more time with your partner during your off-hours or you require more attempts of words of affirmation, you deserve to be heard and seen in all of your needs and wants. On the other hand, when you notice that your partner is attempting to showcase more bids of attention, you should feel free enough in your relationship to openly care for your partner’s needs in a way that leaves both parties feeling satisfied. Appreciation is a two-way street; you cannot expect your partner to drop everything for you when you could not confidently do the same for them. There need to be realistic expectations for what being appreciated looks like for both partners. 


Simple Ways To Show You Care

There are many ways in which you and your partner can share the love between the two of you that don’t rely on physical touch. The best part about being in a relationship with someone is that you get to find new ways of loving them and exploring how they like to be loved every single day. With every action, conversation, and moment you spend with your partner you are building your relationship to better suit who you both are as individuals. When you take the time to genuinely live in the present with your partner, you will begin to learn all of the ways you can celebrate how they are special and unique. Below are five ways that you can shower your partner with the appreciation they deserve to keep maintaining the love that you have for each other: 

  1. Practice active listening when they speak on something that excites them
  2. Try reminding them every day that who they are is special to you
  3. Speak to them as you would want someone to speak to you at every moment
  4. Be vulnerable enough to openly share your likes and dislikes
  5. Openly embrace the feeling of love and reciprocate those feelings


Your Relationship Deserves To Be Appreciated

It may be difficult to fully come to terms with the idea of showing appreciation every day because it seems like a lot of work and effort on your end, but that is the only way to truly show your partner how much they mean to you. It doesn’t take a dozen roses every day or fixing all of their problems, but rather a slow and patient heart to fully understand and appreciate everything that your partner is to you. If you feel like you and your partner need additional support in learning how to appreciate one another in your relationship, please feel free to reach out to one of our amazing counselors who will take the time to ensure the love between you and your partner is nourished in every way.